Stolen voices and the myth of you can or you can’t…
Sadly, parts of our society still believe that you either can or you can’t sing.
Fact – Everyone can learn to sing.
Fact – People that don’t realise this steal children’s voices and feed the cycle.
Whenever the subject of singing arises, and for me it often does, some people get that alarmed look and activate their lock down sequence with familiar statements like, “I can’t sing! I can’t even hold a tune in a bucket!” I hear all too often the stories surrounding the moment they decided to bury their voices and tragically it all too often involves teachers, parents and other adults who ought to know better. The common ones are being asked to leave the choir or being told to stand at the back and mime. The worse ones to hear though are the deeply humiliating stories of children stood in front of the class failing to accurately repeat a piano scale first time.
Any of this sounding familiar?
The voice mechanism is basically powered by muscles, and given exercise, muscles develop and strengthen.
Gaining fine control of a whole bunch of them all at the same time requires training and repetition, like a toddler learning to master the walk. We wouldn’t dream of condemning a baby to crawl forever, no matter how often they fall. OK, so we have a belief structure that says of course babies will learn to walk… so let’s move on…
Picture a child unable to grip a pencil for the first time and barely managing to keep it on the paper. Is the first response “You can’t write”? Ridiculous isn’t it? No-one expects immediate results from these motor skills and yet when it comes to singing the judgement is swift and sadly in some cases permanent, as the thought of challenging that belief and enduring further humiliation is too large a risk to take.
The good news is that we do continue to develop control of the singing muscles through speaking. Many adults are unaware that they have developed accurate pitch and are still convinced they can’t sing. A large number of people who try singing in a group are surprised to find they’re singing the same notes as other people and can start to experience the joy of using their voice as a musical instrument.
If there is no vocal damage or physical restriction you can reach whatever standard of singing you choose, if you’re willing to put the time and effort into playing with your voice alongside strengthening your listening skills.
I’ve had many successes in helping people find their voice so please hear this. If you were told in any way, “You can’t sing”, what was really being said was, “I don’t know how to help you improve your singing”.
If you are over 18 and want to learn to improve your voice, I can help.
I charge £25 an hour.
I don’t teach grades.
I offer a fun, relaxed and compassionate environment for you to find your voice. You choose the song styles that you prefer or would want to aim towards.
We may not have miracles but we will unlock the gates to your vocal playground.
Fortune favours the brave and who knows what treasures are buried just waiting to be discovered…